Have you ever told yourself “I’m NEVER going to act that way again!”?
Maybe you lost your temper, or clammed up instead of saying what you needed to say. You said next time would be different for sure… until the next time came and it all played out the same way?
“Never again is what you swore the time before.” -Policy of Truth by Depeche Mode
And that, my friend, is how emotional patterns work. So, how exactly did we end up seemingly stuck in these ruts?
Let’s talk.
How Emotional Patterns Develop
As we all know, emotions can be painful. What do we do when we feel pain? Our automatic response is to protect ourselves. The most common defense when we feel emotional pain is to ignore, repress, or stuff negative emotions.
As children, we have limited resources, and it doesn’t help when our role models have poor ways of handling their negative emotions.
For example, if you grew up with parents that would punish you every time you said something they didn’t like, you would quickly learn to keep your parents happy by not expressing your feelings whenever you thought it would upset them. This would start a pattern of not speaking your truth when the people around you could disapprove.
These patterns in our minds are like ruts in a gravel road. The more we go over them, the deeper the pattern becomes ingrained.
Can you see how a pattern that seemingly protected you as a child can damage relationships and limit potential as an adult?
What emotional patterns are YOU stuck in that are no longer serving you? Just think about it.
Change is Possible!
The good news is that you can do a lot to change patterns! Essential can help. If you're wondering how, check back to my first blog in my Emotions series. One of my own traditional oil blends is Inner Child. The sweet scent of Inner Child can be used aromatically to connect with your authentic self. I also use this oil in my AFT and TMRT sessions. Below you will find some extra information about the oil and how you can use it yourself.
This oil smells really amazing, but don't forget to try it out before you start wearing it as a perfume, (which has a very strong effect). As with all emotionally balancing oils, some repressed emotions may surface when you first start using them. Because everyone's experience is different, I recommend building it up slowly. What I want to tell you is that it is especially good to get those repressed feelings out, it plays such a role in your subconscious. It allows you to peel off layers to get closer to your authentic self. In my next blogs I will talk more about the purpose of emotions and how we can change the patterns that no longer serve us. Remember that you are not these negative patterns. You can find your authentic self. PS If you are interested in emotionally balancing oils, you can find them in my webshop. If you have any further questions, click here!
Love Joyce
Psst… Usual Disclaimer Here! I am not a doctor or medical professional. This information is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease of mind or body. We aren’t talking mental illness here, just chatting about the emotions which we ALL have.
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